Self love

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Self love is a foundation everything is built on..it gives us clarity and direction..it is an empowering attitude of taking ownership of your life and not being a victim! When I faced death I realised I had not lead a mindful life, even though I was at the top of my career! I promised to do things differently if I got a second chance on life..rest is left on god..

It’s a lifelong journey to discover the self and its important..

What worked for me..?

  • Sit quietly, pay attention and get clarity – revaluate life, i.e on a scale 1 to 10 where are you now? your job, relationships, finance, health..and it’s important to be honest! (please be mindful that we tend to lie to ourselves much more then to others).
  • Have the courage to change..we know change is toughest yet most rewarding. To change any unhealthy habits we need to locate the thoughts or the values attached to it (this is broad topic but being aware about the thoughts itself is freedom).
  • Be kind..Be kind..Be kind..to your self – in my opinion discipline is over rated, for example 90% times new year resolutions gets broken and we beat ourselves for it. Juxtapose to it, it’s better being kind and gently putting ourselves on right track every time we divert.
  • Focus – on “what” rather than “how”. Be resilient, persistent and inspired till you achieve your goal.

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Once we are on alignment with our true nature and calling we can lead a fulfilled life and THEN we can also authentically love others.

 

59 thoughts on “Self love

  1. Absolutely true, Manisha! Ao well put.
    Especially un India, we glorify sacrificing the self for the happiness of others in the family. Women particularly, relegate themselves to a non-entity position and keep postponing their own needs, including health check ups.
    After my Cancer, i decided to cosciously practise self-love. I velieve, like you, that if a cup is empry, it cannot pour anything out.
    Thankyou Manisha, for shining the spotlight on this very important topic! Bless you.

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  2. Self love is very important in our life. If we start loving ourselves at first, then other things will come with more joy and happiness along with our happiness. For example, if a father loves himself at first in terms of caring his health, food, etc, and if he is fit n fine, then his children will automatically be happy and vice versa. There is co-relation between the relation.It applies on every action and behaviour in social life.

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  3. What a brilliant piece of information. I will love following you as you are a great inspiration. Thank you
    Loving oneself without approval from others needs to be given up.
    ” you can be the ripest, juiciest sweetest peach in the world, but there is still going to be someone that hates peaches”
    ~~~~~Dita Von Teese

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  4. Manisha , your Blog has drawn my attention to many areas that I had not paid attention to.
    “Be kind to yourself ” ” what worked for me” ” have the courage to Change ”
    Some of the thoughts in these have got me thinking.
    Like I follow you in many other things , I will now be following your blog.
    Gulshan Grover

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    1. Most of the time we associate self love with being mean or selfish , because it needs you to put yourself first , pay attention to your needs . However with time you realize that how important is to love yourself cause that gives you power and confidence to love other people more.
      Thanks for the column Manisha.

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  5. Reminds me of Maya Angelous’ quote:
    “I don’t trust people who don’t love themselves but say ‘I love you’.”

    So true and raw!
    It’s wonderful to see you happy.

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  6. I can relate to this post Manisha !

    Self love is the most rewarding quality and unfortunately underutilized. We are conditioned to believe that Loving yourself is ‘Selflish’, it creates a lot of distance and enforces ego. They never realize that ‘Self Love’ is the by-product of unconditional love for others and I can say it with experience

    I have battled 20 years of depression with ‘Self Love’ as remedy. It wasn’t easy journey, I wasn’t just being true to myself with the real identity (which is a controversial and too ‘taboo’ for society to accept), After learning Reiki, healing myself and others, along with other healing modalities like Tarot Cards, I develop the courage to LOVE MYSELF. I have recognize my inner abilities and opened my channels to receive and give love.. My life is just awesome now. Confidence has increased to the level where I no longer scared to face obstacles, I know I will overcome it.

    Lovely Blog 🙂 ❤

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  7. Wow, you are an amazing , courageous, inspirational lady. May Lord continue pour put abundant love and Holy strength upon you to bless others. shortly and sweetly I would say, when someone love herself or himself then he or she could multiply their love to others!! God bless!!

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  8. Your quotes are inspiring Manisha!
    At first, it may take a lot to know “what” and when you do, you become more determined and confident in life. Yes, it is difficult but I know, am going to get there. In the path of self love and understanding the better “ME”!

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  9. Dear Manisha,
    Really nice yet simple writing. You said it right that we lie to ourselves the most. I think being honest to ourselves will start making all the difference. As you beautifully put, ‘be kind to yourself ‘ 🙂

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  10. Need to discover our spiritual needs than the physical ones. Seeing people suffer and die in daily life is a traumatic. I need to look for deeper meaning to life and situations…yet to succeed though. Pray…..

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  11. Self Love, Self Respect, Self Approval and Self Worth does not make you selfish. Self Love is Inner Peace…Excellent post Manisha…God Bless You

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  12. Inspirational!! Lovely words!!
    I think loving ourselves means letting ourselves seen deeply, our authentic self without craving for approval and having courage to rise strongly. And yes not beating ourselves even if we failed to do so. All looking to care not for cure..

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  13. You Are Simply Out Of This World…..No Actress can be like you….I like Your Inner Beauty and thoughts….i wish to God to always Give You The Best he has

    regards
    Mr.Manu Sharma
    Chandigarh

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  14. Self love is important to have confidence to face the world! But, we need to exercise caution, so that it does not become an obsession and we start becoming a narcissist…

    But clearly in your case, I guess you have started your second innings on a great note…I like this ‘new’ dimension of your personality – Keep discovering your new self!

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  15. Just as walking is an exercise for our body,writing too is an exercise for our brain.So devote an hour each for both walking and blogging.Hope to read your blogs and enrich myself in the days to come.

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  16. Dear Manisha…..if you find something in nothing….that’s everything….does this make sense…it just sprung to my thought ….

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      1. Thanks Manisha for acknowledging my comment ! One self love …I had this knowledge of self love in me for some time but your beautiful words has boosted my realisation towards it. I always tell my friends “if you can’t take care if yourself then you are not capable if taking care if others. ” but there are some areas which I need some advise/clarification on ! If my self love hurts others as I understand that they may not be capable to absorbs my level of thoughts and ideas ! There is more into it as to what the boundaries are in the process of taking care of yourself (self love)…I m glad that I saw your blog and enjoy following it …

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  17. Manisha Ji!
    Just Got Back & Read Your Blog After My Brief Yet Honourable Meeting With You (Courtesy “Gulshan Grover”).
    Unlike Most Of The People What Is Absolutely Fascinating About You & Your Words Is That What You Are Conveying To The World Through Your Blog Is Not Just A Preaching Lesson But An Immensely Well Transformed & Religiously Practised Mindset & Lifestyle Of An Unassailable Will & Unbendable Faith Of Your Divinely Prepossessing Soul. May God Always Keep You Blessed & Safe!

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  18. Hello Manisha jee
    Very well said. I liked your blog and truly speaking after reading it I feel you have written it so clearly and effectively that I am inspired by all your words. Life is so beautiful but our greedy and unaligned interests bring so much disappointment and pain. Today you have helped me to focus on what my heart and mind says to make me happier. Stay blessed dear!

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  19. great words di …this article really encourage us to love ourselves more than anything else ..you are the proud of Our Nation..Nepal ..God bless You di …Pray for your peaceful and delightful life ahead

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  20. This blog recalled us how important is to love ourselves.. We should love ourselves, then family and then work instead of work, family and ourselves… Manisha ma’am I can understand the value of second life it’s our utmost priority… Yes we should be honest to ourselves…

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